is it too early to pop out the question?

many girls like to ask question like, "do you see me in your future?" "why are you in relationship with me?". and they like to ask this questions when the relationship is still not mature; few months, a year. why are we asking this questions that make guys run away? so if they run away, you know they are not good enough for you? maybe. but why i say it is not appropriate to ask this question when your relationship is still new?

i understand that we as girls want something assuring from guys, so by popping the question "are you gonna marry me?" can at least relieve us from this crazy thoughts: "does he just want me for fun?" "am i good enough for him?". We have to stop from this madness thoughts because words are just words. Guys can lie and promise "of course i will marry you, you're the only one i want", and the next day they leave you. If guys want you, they will stay with you, if they don't, they will fool around or they will just leave you. Plus, your relationship is too early to judge whether this person is The One. Asking too early about marriage shows insecurity, it shows you don't trust him and what worst when you don't get the real answer from him, then it haunt the rest of your time with him. In the end, you left with broken heart. Maybe you already know he's the one and wish he think the same way too, but not everyone fall in love on the first sight, and not everyone knows what they want once they see it. Everyone need time to get to know someone, even when you think you know he's the one. When you both are in deep love, it doesn't mean it is a green light to ask a man the question. It is normal to feel so in love with someone when the relationship is only a couple of months old because you still in a honeymoon mode. but when you get back to real life and all the bad habits are shown, that's the time of real relationship, that's the time to understand and learn... could this person be the one for you?

Relationship is a process to know if that someone is your worth.

After time flies by, you learnt about each other, when he knows you and you know him well, without words needed, deep down you know how he feels about you and when the time is right, your wish will come true, he will pop the question!

much love, xoxo

smile and hi

do you like someone? are you in love with someone? you want to approach her but you afraid your way will scare her off?

you don't want to be seem like a desperate? so what do you do?
if you're a shy person, start with a simple smile or hi when you pass by each other. It doesn't necessarily you have to start a conversation on 1st time eyes contact. when you say hi or give her a smile, you can see her respond, she smiles back? Good! she say hi back? even Better! but what if she looks away? be positive and don't give up! Maybe she is just as shy as you. so when next time you see her again, try to repeat the same thing, smile and hi! when she start to recognize you, then she will give you a positive feedback. Maybe this time around you can approach her and have a light chit chat. You don't have to be in rush in telling her how you feel, girls usually have the inkling saying that you have a crush on them, but you can just let it wait awhile(just awhile, do not wait until you two become best friends), let them wonder, show your interest on them but don't be crazy over them like sending gifts, or ask her out for the 3rd time and you didn't do anything, You will think that you will never be ready to tell her how you feel, but somehow you have to because if you don't, another guy will! good luck

much love, xoxo

new in town!!

hello everyone! thanks for taking time visiting my blog. welcome! welcome! you must be wondering why i name my blog 'Walk in My Sneakers' right? it is because I am still young (wouldn't call myself a teenager but i'm young! LOL) and i hope my posts reach to those young generation who have friends, love or dating problem. Even if you want to share your thoughts or need someone to hear how you're feeling about something, you are welcome here.
I am not a life counselor, or dating expert, i am just a normal girl still living my imperfect life, learning from my mistakes and I can't wait to share my thoughts and experiences on things that many of us facing in the process of growing. Many of my friends and myself have go through many obstacles that we survived and learnt by sharing. So, that's why I am eager to share my opinion, story or how I handle stuffs so you won't have to feel that you are alone in your problem, and that many have experience what you are going through. If you have any idea, thoughts or questions please comment below.. Maybe i can talk about your idea/problem in my upcoming post.

p/s: please spread ME to everyone you know

much love, xoxo